I can remember vividly the joy we felt when we became parents for the first time. It is true when people say that you never knew that you could love so deeply.
I can remember even more vividly the doctors telling us that our son may be blind … and the overwhelming sadness that followed for my wife and I.
The physical challenges of our son’s condition have been incredibly hard, he’s undergone 21 surgeries before his 3rd birthday … all with the hopes of providing him the most potential for sight.
There is definitely truth to the adage, whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. That is the unexpected upside to adversity.
Every new parent has dreams of what their child is going to be like, or what activities they are going to do with them … like throwing a ball back and forth, or teaching them to ride their first bike, or seeing them drive off to college someday.
And though we’ve had to release these dreams … they have been replaced by a reality that is actually more beautiful. All of us who have children, love the children we have regardless of who they are. There is something divine in loving a child without motive or expectation; it allows you to find beauty and hope in the existence, rather than the achievements, of such a child.
As Andrew Solomon stated in his book, Far From The Tree,
“There is a compelling purity in parental engagement not with what might or should or will be, but with, simply, what is.”
When Jonas was born we were thrust into a new space of visual impairment in which we recognized quickly that the majority of eyeglass solutions were incredibly cost prohibitive and focused purely on function, often at the expense of a child being embarrassed to wear glasses. We were determined that if our son was going to have to wear glasses at a young age, they were going to be a fashion statement and he was going to feel like a little stud muffin in them.
So, like you do shortly after having your first child, you start a children’s eyeglass company. 🙂
Rob Bell articulates how suffering often inspires creativity when he wrote the following in his book Drops Like Stars,
“We plot. We plan. We assume things are going to go a certain way. And when they don’t, we find ourselves in a new place-a place we haven’t been before, a place we never would have imagined on our own.
It is the difficult and the unexpected, and maybe even the tragic, that opens us up and frees us to see things in new ways.
Many of the most significant moments in our lives come not because it all went right but because it all fell apart.
Suffering does that. It hurts, but it also creates.”
I can only speak from my experience, but in when I was in the space of comfort I found myself becoming emotionally numb to the needs and suffering of individuals around me, I found myself searching for a greater purpose, and though I would have never imagined it, or wished it upon anyone,
I received a clear answer in the form of intense pain and suffering, and my life was disrupted.
Often times, a natural response towards disability is to withdraw … and I do not fault anyone for taking this approach as I understand the challenges of being in public with a child that isn’t “normal.” The ignorant questions, the stares and double takes, the inability for other parents to relate.
But for us, a more natural response was to push out our suffering and use the energy to create. I attribute this response to our fine art education/background paired with the business ventures we had started … its as if we were being molded to be able to respond responsibly to an incredibly difficult situation and push it out to make an impact.
“The greatest thing is, at any moment, to be willing to give up who we are in order to become all that we can be.”
Max DePree, former CEO of Herman Miller
Though I can’t speak to what life is like as a blind woman, I can relate to the truth behind Hellen Keller’s quote,
“The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision.”
I can say with confidence that our beautiful son changed the direction of our lives and gave us vision.
I’m not sure if any of you wore glasses as my husband, Ben, did as a child, but he remembers the whole process being de-humanizing. From having a doctor tell you that you need to wear glasses, to selecting a pair from the small, cartoon laden collection for children, to walking into school the first day with an object on your face that was impossible to hide.
And still today there are millions of children in America being barraged with the confidence deflating words “nerd” and “four eyes” — their peers mocking them because they have to wear corrective eyewear. While to some this may seem trivial or “kids being kids,” a child’s self-esteem and identity can be cemented as young as the age of 8. This identity is deeply molded and influenced by their peers as they form an initial view of how they fit into the world.
I would assume that everyone reading this bears a scar from being teased as a child … and if we can use a beautifully designed product and brand to prevent some of these scars and boost the self-esteem of children, I feel confident that we are going to make a lasting impact.
As Doug Foresta, LICSW, wrote,
“The more I have a chance to write and reflect on the subject of creativity, the more convinced I become that creativity is an essential part of the healing process.”
And to be honest when my husband and I started designing these frames and working through the concepts for Jonas Paul Eyewear – I never found myself so inspired, encouraged, focused and driven. I felt like this had the potential to influence a future generation.
And I am confident that creativity was one of the key components to my healing.
To finish, I would like to leave you with a quote we received from a mom, Lauren, who purchased Jonas Paul Eyewear glasses as I believe it summarizes why we have chosen to start Jonas Paul Eyewear :
“I just wanted to send my sincere gratitude for creating frames that won’t make my daughter feel different. She has frames now like ‘mommy and daddy’ and thinks that princesses sent her the box to try on. So, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing what you are doing. Your son is absolutely adorable and in his short life, I am sure has changed the lives of many….ours included.”
Jonas Paul Eyewear was started with the mission to bring stylish and affordable kids glasses to a market that was missing both.
Buy Sight, Give Sight : For every pair of Jonas Paul Eyewear glasses purchased we provide sight to a child in need. To date, the Buy Sight Give Sight program has positively impacted over 15,000 children in developing countries!
Laura Harrison is the co-founder of Jonas Paul Eyewear and most importantly, an amazing mother to her two beautiful children, Jonas Paul (3 years) and Sophie Ruth (7 months). She has extensive entrepreneurial experience, having co-founded 4 businesses alongside her husband, Ben.
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